FAQ on Recent Events

July 28, 2006 at 12:10 pm (Forum Dramatics)

Wow! 20-something emails this morning all on the same thing! Keep them coming. I seem to be getting a lot of the same questions, though. I’ll do my best to keep you all updated.

Q: What exactly is “Coventry”?
A: “Coventry” is a settling available to admins of the PhP forums. It puts the targeted user on all member’s ignore list. The user who has been sent to Coventry is able to post, send and read PMs, read as usual. But all other users on the site cannot read the Coventry user’s posts, PMs, or any other thing put out by the confined user.

Q: Were you the only one sent to “Coventry”?
A: As far as I know, yes.

Q: How come there was a difference between the number of users listed as being on the site, and the number of usernames listed?
A: There is an option for users to be listed as “invisible”. This means that no one (other than the mods and admins) can see what you are looking at, where you are posting, and if you are active. It counts you as a member online, but will not list your username.

Q: Why were they so upset when you mentioned something about the invisible users?
A: I’m really not sure. My guess would be that either they didn’t want me pointing out that there were people online who weren’t listed, or they just felt like snapping at me.

Q: How were you able to see who was doing what, if you aren’t an admin?
A:If you add “online.php” to the end of the URL of the forum, you can see who is online. For example, the forum I help run is called eHacked.
http://forums.ehacked.com/ is the regular url
http://forums.ehacked.com/online.php gives you the list of who is online

Q: Why were you banned?
A: The only official reason I got was I’ve posted below – I pissed David off. There was no point that I was able to post after I was sent to Coventry, but before I was banned, so what was a Coventry offence one minute changed to a bannable offence the next.

Q: But weren’t others doing the same things you were?
A: Others were trying to make the same point I was, but I was doing it in a manner that was probably seen as more damaging to the admin’s reasoning.

Q: Isn’t this the same thing that happened over at Crochetville?
A: In my opinion, yes.

Q: Was anyone else banned?
A:Yes, one other member, Kelly, was banned. Others have chosen to leave on their own. There are also members who let the admins know they were “taking a break”, and their membership has been terminated, even though they wished to remain members.

Q: Where can we go now?
A: I suggest Crafster.org. It’s a huge, well established crafting board with every type of craft imaginable. It’s very well run. You are also welcome at eHacked (where I admin), but it’s rather adult, and not craft related at all.

Q: Have any of the admins been in contact with you?
A: Nope. I don’t expect them to, either.

Q: But I thought they were against censorship, and they would never ban members for speaking their mind?
A: Me too.


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I am what I hate.

July 28, 2006 at 9:59 am (Forum Dramatics, Uncategorized)

I stand for the anonymous masses, but I chide those who don’t come forward.
I never apologize for my actions, but I let others say their sorries for me.
I am not a bully, but I try to intimidate those around me.
I make fun of the losers, but correct others who follow my lead.
I abhore censorship, but I hide words that question my own.
I left a forum because of the admin’s actions, but I became what I left.
I encouage all opinions, until they are different than mine.
I team up with others to put up a wall, but I feel attacked when the other side bonds.
I am what I hate, but I don’t see what I am.

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My end at the DoD

July 27, 2006 at 5:37 pm (Forum Dramatics)

In the last 24 hours or so, there was a major eruption at the Dreams of Dogwood forum. As a result of my actions, I have been banned from the site, along with others. I’ve had a few hours to reflect on what I said, what others have said, and what I have been told has happened since. Since a lot of the cool DoD chickies read this blog, I thought I’d share a few thoughts.

One of the hardest thing for a person to do is apologize. It’s even harder for someone to realize that they in fact can be wrong about things. It’s a huge shock to the system to be told by so many people from so many different perspectives that you are absolutely wrong about something. One reaction to that could be accepting those words, and taking a step back. The other reaction is to lash out, and save face, even when your words make little sense, and contradict themselves.

The latter often sparks off more discussion, more attempts to correct a person in their ways, which spirals to more attacks, more contradictions. This goes on and on until it wavers out of control, and an authority figure puts their foot down. But where this foot is put down makes a great difference. Ending a conversation mid-stream leads to bias, on “who got the last word”. The feelings are still there, the confusion is still there. Little is done other than create an atmosphere of favoritism.

Favoritism and censorship go hand-in-hand. When rules are made to eliminate a certain topic of discussion, the brush should be wide. No one, including those running a forum, should be permitted to have their posts remain, while others are taken down. I believe that people running a forum should lead by example, and should follow the same rules and guidelines that they expect their member’s to follow. If they require that members step forward themselves into the open with complaints, than they should not play the spokesperson to the anonymous. If there is a hope for open and honest dialogue, than people shouldn’t be punished for their differing opinions. Posts should never be deleted simply because they didn’t make the administration team feel good.

Of course, I realize that forums are privately owned and operated. Rules are set up from the start, and changed when it’s needed. But they shouldn’t be altered and changed just to eliminate a single person, idea, or subject. If your desire as the runner of a forum is to have a private circle of those who agree with your thoughts, let your users know that from the get-go. And again, follow your own rules.

I find it slightly ironic that I’ve once defended the very bully that I came to locking horns with. And that I defended her against accusations of being a bully to a different group of people. I see now that I was very wrong, and I apologize to those at Crochetville who tried to make me aware that past actions really do carry forward. You all have the right to leave the comment “I told you so.”

One thing that made me very proud of the friends that I made at DoD, is that so many of them stood up for what they believed in, and tried their best to add constructive comments to the confusion. I knew right away that I wasn’t the only one having the thought that the situation seemed vaguely familiar of other forums we have been members of. None of them backed down, and all of them were mature in handling their absolute disgust with the issue at hand. For that, I applaud you.

That’s all for now. I’m sure I’ll add more later, as the week goes on, and more details trickle down to my level.

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July 27, 2006 at 2:46 pm (Forum Dramatics)

You have been banned for the following reason:

Date the ban will be lifted: Never

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Breast Feeding = Sexually Explicit Material?

June 4, 2006 at 7:18 pm (Forum Dramatics)

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Glad I’m not on LiveJournal.

I think all bloggers should be aware of what is going on. In a nutshell, a rule against nudity in avatars has lead to banning of all breast-feeding avatars, which has been expanded included fine art, such as this, this, and this. Yes, no more pics of a breast-feeding Virgin Mary. Banned avs are stored here.Click here to find out the short version of the ‘fuss’ over breastfeeding avatars.

Here is a press version of the story, and a blogger summing it much better than I can. Also, details of the 6/6/06 LJ Boycott, and 6/5/06 Nurse-In at LJ Headquarters.

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From the Kindness of Strangers II

May 17, 2006 at 7:12 am (Crochet & Crafts, Forum Dramatics)

Once again, my pals at Dreams of Dogwoods have come through for me.

Seeing as I’ve got that new sale at the Farmer’s Market, I thought maybe I should add a veggie/grocery bag to my stock. There is a crochet-a-long going on at DoD, Natalie’s Econo-Shopper bag. I PMed Nat, asking her if I could get a cottage license in order to sell her creation at the sales. I figured that it would cost me at least a $20, but I’ve seen artists sell their patterns for well over $100.

In her reply, she told me that she couldn’t accept any money for the pattern, but asked that I tag my items with her blog addie : http://natalie85.blogspot.com/ Go check it out, and let her know that she’s the awesomest person out there!

In addition to Nat being the fab girl that she is, Pink posted that she would send a spare pattern she had to the first person who PMed her. I did, and I’ve got Crochet Tops to Love in the mail, heading to me! Here’s Pink’s blog : http://www.sulovespink.blogspot.com/

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From the Kindness of Strangers

May 2, 2006 at 10:19 am (Crochet & Crafts, Forum Dramatics)

I posted a pattern request on C’ville for a Japanese Hello Kitty pattern book. Thinking that I might have burned my bridge at that forum, I was absolutely floored when I logged on today and saw the huge amount of PMs offering to help me in my search! Not only were members able to provide me with exactly what I was looking for, so many of them took their time and offered their support of me, my blog, and my efforts at C’ville.

I would specifically mention members that went above-and-beyond, but I fear that they may be targeted by the C’ville gestapo for being helpful to an Untouchable like me. It wouldn’t suprise me if my PMs have already been read by the admin. Yes, even though that vBulletin does not have the specific option to read PMs, the database contains these PMs (and the owner can read the database), and there is also a hack to download. So be careful – Private Messages aren’t so private!

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Real Life, Less Drama

May 1, 2006 at 11:53 am (Crochet & Crafts, Forum Dramatics)

Now that things seemed to have begun settling down at C’ville, (although, the question of the auction and funding is still in the air), I’ve been able to spend more of the internet side of my life relaxing. I’ve been invited to many new forums that sprang up during the time of C’ville’s “vacation” that are much more chilled and less drama filled. I’ll mention two, before moving on…

Crochetmania – Although this one is home of a few “powerful” C’ville supporters, and I was told in so many words that I am not welcome there. So, you won’t see me there much.

Dreams of Dogwoods – A wonderful place run by those exiled out of C’ville for one reason or another. A very honest, open, and frank discussion group on several types of crafts – not just crochet. This is my more regular craft-related stomping grounds.

I had my first sale this weekend, and although I didn’t get as many things sold as I was hoping for, it was a good experience overall. I’m looking forward to my next one, Memorial Day Weekend’s Gaspee Day’s Arts and Craft Fest.

I’ve got quite of bit of what I call “quick stock” (things I can whip up very quickly, and sell well), so I’ve been working on larger pieces, like shrugs, handbags, and more ornate items. I’m also beginning to think about Christmas gifts that I want to start on, since I tend to take a while making the important things. I’m thinking of making a Hello Kitty afghan, using this free pattern of a Hello Kitty Granny Square that someone posted over at craftster.

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Crochet Donations – The Real Deal

April 20, 2006 at 10:43 am (Crochet & Crafts, Forum Dramatics)

From dictionary.com:
do·na·tion n.()

  1. The act of giving to a fund or cause.
  2. A gift or grant.

Here are a list of crochet-related causes that need either funds, or crocheted goods for their cause. This is just a google-type list, and I don’t really know a whole lot about these places. But, at the very least, I know that they are indeed places that have a real and true need for your talents and funds.

Squares 4 SurvivorsWe accept 12″ crocheted or knitted squares of 4 ply worsted weight acrylic yarn which are assembled into afghans for victims of Hurricanes Katrina and Rita, and any future hurricane victims who require assistance. All information is available at the web site including sign-up for our yahoo list. We will also accept completed afghans or quilts.

Threads of Compassion: a loosely connected group of survivors of sexual violence who desire to offer comfort and support to recent victims. The idea is simple. Anyone whose life has been affected by sexual assault or abuse is welcome to knit or crochet a scarf which in turn will be given to a victim of sexual violence when they enter the hospital for emergency treatment.

Warm Hearts Warm Babies: We are a group of kind-hearted volunteers that help to make life easier for Colorado’s tiniest citizens. We sew, knit, crochet, and quilt for premature infants and babies in need. We donate to hospitals, crisis pregnancy centers, shelters, law enforcement agencies, foster care, WIC offices, and individuals across much of the state of Colorado. All of our gifts are donated free of charge and 100% of what we receive in donations goes to help the babies. Please visit the links on the left to learn more about us and what you can do to help.

Afghans for Afghnas: A humanitarian and educational people-to-people project that sends hand-knit and crocheted blankets and sweaters, vests, hats, mittens, and socks to the beleaguered people of Afghanistan.

Angels for Hope: We crochet angels, butterflies, and smiley faces (for children) that are sent out all over the world upon request to those who are severely injured, chronically ill, and their caregivers free of charge.

These are only a few of the charities I found. There are tons of websites out there, looking for donations.

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