One of those Quiz Thingies

July 30, 2006 at 8:37 pm (MeMes, Quizzzes, and Polls)

Su tagged me a while back, and I should get around to it!

1. Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 18, and find line 4.
“10 feet wide and long. There is an exit to the north that is…”

2. Stretch your left arm out as far as you can. What can you touch?

3. What is the last thing you watched on TV?
Superman, the first movie

4. Without looking, guess what time it is. 11am

5. Now look at the clock. What is the actual time?

6. With the exception of the computer, what can you hear?
My brother and my friend playing Battlefront II on X-Box.

7. When did you last step outside? What were you doing?
About an hour ago, to put out the garbage.

8. Before you started this survey, what did you look at?
Su’s blog.

9. What are you wearing?
A white t-shirt and pink pj pants.

10. Did you dream last night?
Not that I remember

11. When did you last laugh?
At my brother Abe, about 10 minutes ago.

12. What is on the walls of the room you are in?
5 paintings, a clock, a plate, a dozen photos.

13. Seen anything weird lately?
I saw a frog this morning that had a blue tint to it. That was kind of odd.

14. What do you think of this quiz?
Pretty quick.

15. What is the last film or video you saw?
Other than the one on tv now, I watched a documentary on Shangri-La

16. If you became a multi-millionaire overnight, what would you buy?
Airline tickets to go see Em – first class!

17. Tell me something about you that I don’t know.
I can wiggle my ears.

18. If you could change one thing about the world, regardless of guilt or politics, what would you do?
Create a method of controlling who has children.

19. Do you like to dance?

20. Comment to George Bush:
When can I get married?

21. Imagine your first child is a girl, what do you call her?
Lily Cora

22. Imagine your first child is a boy, what do you call him?
Thomas Joseph

23. Would you ever consider living abroad?
Duh! Yes.

24. What do you want God to say to you when you reach the pearly gate?
Your Papa’s been watching you, and he is very proud.

25. 4 people who must also do this quiz on THEIR blog.


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FAQ on Recent Events

July 28, 2006 at 12:10 pm (Forum Dramatics)

Wow! 20-something emails this morning all on the same thing! Keep them coming. I seem to be getting a lot of the same questions, though. I’ll do my best to keep you all updated.

Q: What exactly is “Coventry”?
A: “Coventry” is a settling available to admins of the PhP forums. It puts the targeted user on all member’s ignore list. The user who has been sent to Coventry is able to post, send and read PMs, read as usual. But all other users on the site cannot read the Coventry user’s posts, PMs, or any other thing put out by the confined user.

Q: Were you the only one sent to “Coventry”?
A: As far as I know, yes.

Q: How come there was a difference between the number of users listed as being on the site, and the number of usernames listed?
A: There is an option for users to be listed as “invisible”. This means that no one (other than the mods and admins) can see what you are looking at, where you are posting, and if you are active. It counts you as a member online, but will not list your username.

Q: Why were they so upset when you mentioned something about the invisible users?
A: I’m really not sure. My guess would be that either they didn’t want me pointing out that there were people online who weren’t listed, or they just felt like snapping at me.

Q: How were you able to see who was doing what, if you aren’t an admin?
A:If you add “online.php” to the end of the URL of the forum, you can see who is online. For example, the forum I help run is called eHacked. is the regular url gives you the list of who is online

Q: Why were you banned?
A: The only official reason I got was I’ve posted below – I pissed David off. There was no point that I was able to post after I was sent to Coventry, but before I was banned, so what was a Coventry offence one minute changed to a bannable offence the next.

Q: But weren’t others doing the same things you were?
A: Others were trying to make the same point I was, but I was doing it in a manner that was probably seen as more damaging to the admin’s reasoning.

Q: Isn’t this the same thing that happened over at Crochetville?
A: In my opinion, yes.

Q: Was anyone else banned?
A:Yes, one other member, Kelly, was banned. Others have chosen to leave on their own. There are also members who let the admins know they were “taking a break”, and their membership has been terminated, even though they wished to remain members.

Q: Where can we go now?
A: I suggest It’s a huge, well established crafting board with every type of craft imaginable. It’s very well run. You are also welcome at eHacked (where I admin), but it’s rather adult, and not craft related at all.

Q: Have any of the admins been in contact with you?
A: Nope. I don’t expect them to, either.

Q: But I thought they were against censorship, and they would never ban members for speaking their mind?
A: Me too.

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I am what I hate.

July 28, 2006 at 9:59 am (Forum Dramatics, Uncategorized)

I stand for the anonymous masses, but I chide those who don’t come forward.
I never apologize for my actions, but I let others say their sorries for me.
I am not a bully, but I try to intimidate those around me.
I make fun of the losers, but correct others who follow my lead.
I abhore censorship, but I hide words that question my own.
I left a forum because of the admin’s actions, but I became what I left.
I encouage all opinions, until they are different than mine.
I team up with others to put up a wall, but I feel attacked when the other side bonds.
I am what I hate, but I don’t see what I am.

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My end at the DoD

July 27, 2006 at 5:37 pm (Forum Dramatics)

In the last 24 hours or so, there was a major eruption at the Dreams of Dogwood forum. As a result of my actions, I have been banned from the site, along with others. I’ve had a few hours to reflect on what I said, what others have said, and what I have been told has happened since. Since a lot of the cool DoD chickies read this blog, I thought I’d share a few thoughts.

One of the hardest thing for a person to do is apologize. It’s even harder for someone to realize that they in fact can be wrong about things. It’s a huge shock to the system to be told by so many people from so many different perspectives that you are absolutely wrong about something. One reaction to that could be accepting those words, and taking a step back. The other reaction is to lash out, and save face, even when your words make little sense, and contradict themselves.

The latter often sparks off more discussion, more attempts to correct a person in their ways, which spirals to more attacks, more contradictions. This goes on and on until it wavers out of control, and an authority figure puts their foot down. But where this foot is put down makes a great difference. Ending a conversation mid-stream leads to bias, on “who got the last word”. The feelings are still there, the confusion is still there. Little is done other than create an atmosphere of favoritism.

Favoritism and censorship go hand-in-hand. When rules are made to eliminate a certain topic of discussion, the brush should be wide. No one, including those running a forum, should be permitted to have their posts remain, while others are taken down. I believe that people running a forum should lead by example, and should follow the same rules and guidelines that they expect their member’s to follow. If they require that members step forward themselves into the open with complaints, than they should not play the spokesperson to the anonymous. If there is a hope for open and honest dialogue, than people shouldn’t be punished for their differing opinions. Posts should never be deleted simply because they didn’t make the administration team feel good.

Of course, I realize that forums are privately owned and operated. Rules are set up from the start, and changed when it’s needed. But they shouldn’t be altered and changed just to eliminate a single person, idea, or subject. If your desire as the runner of a forum is to have a private circle of those who agree with your thoughts, let your users know that from the get-go. And again, follow your own rules.

I find it slightly ironic that I’ve once defended the very bully that I came to locking horns with. And that I defended her against accusations of being a bully to a different group of people. I see now that I was very wrong, and I apologize to those at Crochetville who tried to make me aware that past actions really do carry forward. You all have the right to leave the comment “I told you so.”

One thing that made me very proud of the friends that I made at DoD, is that so many of them stood up for what they believed in, and tried their best to add constructive comments to the confusion. I knew right away that I wasn’t the only one having the thought that the situation seemed vaguely familiar of other forums we have been members of. None of them backed down, and all of them were mature in handling their absolute disgust with the issue at hand. For that, I applaud you.

That’s all for now. I’m sure I’ll add more later, as the week goes on, and more details trickle down to my level.

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July 27, 2006 at 2:46 pm (Forum Dramatics)

You have been banned for the following reason:

Date the ban will be lifted: Never

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My own “Love Biography”

July 27, 2006 at 9:50 am (The Big Move)

I edited names and locations.

Emma and I met during the summer of 2001. I was employed as a assistant waterfront director at Camp LaTiDah, in Rhode Island, USA. She was a unit leader at the same camp, and was part of a program called “Camp America”, that brought internationals to work for the summer. As this was a residential camp, the work time and relaxation time was always spent with your co-workers. I spent time in Emma’s unit, and as time went on, we grew to know eachother on a more detailed level. I always thought she was a beautiful girl with a quick whit and brilliant personality, and started to persue a more loving relationship. We shared our first kiss on July 25th of that summer, and we celebrate that now as our “anniversary day”.

After the summer ended, Emma lived with my family and I for the next 2 months. We spent this time house-sitting for a mutual friend. It was like we had our own little house to ourselves, even if only for 3 weeks. Before Emma’s work visa expired, we traveled many places around where I lived, ending our time together in New York City.

When Emma left that October, a few weeks later, I travelled to the UK for the first time to meet her family. After that trip, we did not see eachother again for six months. This was the longest time we had ever spent apart, and we vowed then and there, never to be separated that long ever again. We called eachother almost daily, and chatted online everyday. I spent hundreds (maybe closer to thousands) of dollars on calling cards. Even though we had this daily contact, it was not the same as being together. I miss her dearly when she is not around, but we have learned to cope with the separation. Since then, we have been separated often, but never for more than 3 months at a time. I have travelled to the UK over a dozen times to be with her, and she has done the same travelling to see me. We estimate that we have spent more than $7000 just traveling to see eachother over the years we have been together. Recently, Emma has enrolled at Bristol Community College, in Massachusettes, in order that we could spend more time together on a permanant level. Last year, she spent over $9000 of her own money to pay for tuition, so that we could live together for that year.

Emma and I have several interests in common. She has taught me about English football, and I know follow it almost as enthusiasticly as she does. When Emma joined a soccer team at college, I made sure I was at every game, cheering her on. I crochet in my spare time, and Emma went out of her way to learn the stitches, so that we can create things together. We cook together, play pool, go to movies, and other “coupley” things. I am a teacher, and Emma comes into my classroom once a week to work with my special needs students. They think she is great! She even got me to join a gym – a feat in itself.

We both love travel, and have taken many vacations together. In the United Kingdom, we have done long-weekends in London, York, Blackpool, Edinburgh, Brighton, and Manchester. We have spend time in Europe, in Barcelona, Ibiza, and Mallorca. In the USA, we have vacationed in New York City, Las Vegas, and New Hampshire. During the summer of 2003, we took a 2000 mile road trip from my home in Rhode Island, to Miami Beach, Florida. We stopped over in several cities, including Daytona Beach and Washington DC.

Emma and our relationship is special to me in so many ways. She had never been in a lesbian relationship before, I felt I had to be more careful and understanding in the beginning stages of our relationship. Because of this, I got to know her much better before things turned to a sexual nature. Emma’s personality (a calm, organized, level-headed, forward thinker) balances mine out fantasticly. During times when my family and I have gone through health concerns and untimely deaths, she has been there as the rock of support I need. When I have my own health concerns, she has been there to nurse me back to health. Without her, I know I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

Emma and I have dealth with separations before, and they are always heart-wrenching and painful. If we had to continue our relationship as it is now, with periods of separation, to the point that I have physical symptoms related to the depression caused by our separations. I feel that we won’t be able to achieve the dreams we have for ourselves if we have to continue to be separated. If permitted to live in England with Emma, we plan on getting a house of our own, and eventually, adopt children. This is much more possible to do with the laws the way that they are in the UK, as far as same-sex couples are concerned.

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Write your “Love Biography”

July 26, 2006 at 9:56 am (The Big Move)

As part of an application I am filling out (not for a job, but more important), I have to provide evidence of my continual relationship with Emma. One example provided is an essay, written by me, explaining the following:

3. A covering letter from each of you detailing most, but not necessarily all of the following:

bullet How and when you met.
bullet How and why the relationship developed.
bullet If you’ve spent time apart – why, and how you felt during this time.
bullet Your shared social activities and hobbies.
bullet Milestones in your relationship such as moving in together or going on hols.
bullet What makes your relationship special for you.
bullet What makes your partner special for you.
bullet Future plans you may have.
bullet How you would feel if you were forced to be apart.

Shouldn’t everyone do this, at least once in your lifetime? I’ll share mine, when completed.

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100 Things About Me.

July 25, 2006 at 11:57 am (MeMes, Quizzzes, and Polls)

To keep with the current trend in blog posts, here are 100 random things about me.

I am an Aries.
I live in a house inhabited by 8 other people, a cat, a dog, and a crab.
My favorite number is 23.
I only wear makeup when my girlfriend asks me to.
I watch way too much tv.
I have only worn socks once in the last 3 months.
I remember what “OK Soda” was, and I make it myself out of Cola and Orange Soda.
I don’t know my credit score.
I am one of those people who didn’t save money by switching to Geiko.
I love playing roulette at casinos.
The only reason I don’t quit my job is because of the kids I teach.
I bought a Nintendo DS just so I could play Animal Crossing.
My grandmother’s family is from Portugal.
When someone scrapes their fork on their plate it freaks me out like nails on a chalkboard.
My favorite color is grey.
I have four tattoos and three piercings.
I have two future sisters-in-law that are really cool. If their boyfriends break up with them, I’ll be mad.
My favorite flavor potato chips are sour cream and chive.
I learned how to crochet from the internet.
I fear turning 30.
I am a registered democrat, but I find myself more conservative as I get older.
I could keep my tv on FoodTV, CourtTV and MSNBC all day, and be happy.
I love it when my girlfriend tickles my feet.
I am right handed.
It’s been about 15 years since I always wrote in cursive.
My brothers and I were all named after Biblical figures.
My family members are non-practicing Roman Catholics.
I do believe in God.
When I crave food, it’s usually food from Chili’s.
I watch WWE Wrestling.
I read “The Lord of the Rings” trilogy in one summer, and I want to do it again.
I am a “lipstick” lesbian, even though I don’t wear lipstick.
My dream vacation would be a 20-day Mediterranean cruise that stops at many ancient ruins.
I went to college for more than four years, and didn’t finish my degree.
My boss tells me I’m overqualified for my job, but underqualified for the next step up.
I am a certified lifeguard.
I am also an ordained minister in the Universal Life Church.
I hated 7th grade.
I believe in ghosts.
My great grandmother was named Maria. So were her three other sisters.
Before I met my girlfriend, I was going to name my first daughter “Emma”.
Today is my 5 year anniversary.
I’ve never broken any bones.
I had to get stitches in 3rd grade when I fell off a see-saw and landed on my chin.
My favorite teacher in school was my Spanish teacher, Mr. Cardullo.
The first time I went to New York City was in 8th grade.
My favorite ice cream is Ben & Jerry’s Coffee Heath.
I’ve owned 4 computers in my life.
I hate the taste of black licorice.
If I have no where to do during the day, I often just wear PJs while I am at home.
I don’t own an iPod.
I am lactose intolerant.
I’ve only been in once car accident since I have been driving, and it was when a deer ran into me. I can put my foot behind my head.
I prefer the manny, Perry over Kevin Federline.
I make the best cheesecake known to mankind.
I own a Magic Bullet – the food processor, not the vibe.
I don’t understand the attraction to SpongeBob Sqaurepants.
I’ve done the dine-and-dash once. By mistake.
I only like my eggs scrambled.
I love bacon.
My dog always sleeps on her back with her paws in the air.
I talk in my sleep.
I left my wallet in a bar in Barcelona last New Year’s Eve.
I support Manchester United Football Club.
I have light brown eyes.
I have over 30,000 frequent flyer miles on US Airways.
I once owned an original Nintendo game called Princess tomato and the Salad Kingdom.
My mom graduated college the same year I grad’ded from high school.
I’ve traveled by train more in the UK than in the USA.
My first cat was named Bo Diddley.
My favorite drink is a White Chocolate martinis.
I was in New York city two weeks after 9/11, and Emma was in London two weeks after 7/7.
Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston scare me.
My bedroom has red walls.
I have a lego Yoda.
The majority of the torrents I have downloaded are historical documentaries.
In college, I took a film class on horror movies.
I have double jointed thumbs.
During the SARS scare, I was quarantined to my home for 10 days.
I have a fear of falling, and I don’t go on roller coasters.
I’ve never worn suspenders.
When I bake, I often eat the raw dough.
I think that pink-dyed poodles look stupid.
I have freckles.
I feel that The Gradual sucks.
I’ve never been to a restaurant on Federal Hill.
I was voted “Class Sweetheart” with my then-boyfriend when I was in high school.
I bought my cell phone on eBay.
Every Christmas, my brothers and I decorate ginger bread houses.
I have comment moderation on my blog to prevent spam, not censor.
I love thunderstorms.
The last movie I saw in the theaters was the first Pirates of the Caribbean.
Every summer, I buy three cheap pairs of sunglasses, and they are all lost by the end of the summer.
According to Weight Watchers, I am allowed 24 points a day.
I take my coffee two ways. They naughty way is with heavy cream and heavy sugar. The diet way is skim milk and Splenda.
I have a slight hole in my palliate that I can breathe through.
I have Melina from WWE as my desktop image.
I love grape popsicles.
This hundred items took me forever to do.

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Headaches, Heartaches, and Hunger

July 24, 2006 at 9:28 pm (Uncategorized)

I’m so not in the mood to blog, but it’s been a while. Might as well make a post of short sentences. Maybe it’ll get the negativity out of my system.

I miss Emma. It’s our 5 year anniversary tomorrow. She’s still in the UK, and I won’t see her again until September 2nd. I chat with her everyday, and she calls me when she can, but it’s nothing like being together in real life.

I’ve had a migrane for about 3 days now. I think it’s because of the weather, and the thunderstorm that just won’t come.

I haven’t crocheted a stitch since I’ve been back. Come to think of it, I haven’t done squat since I got back. I haven’t even unpacked yet.

Diets don’t suck. Cravings do.

Three people I have looked up to (in a way) have disappointed me. Even though I only knew then through the internet, it kind of sucks when people you thought were the anti-bullies just turn out to be bullies in different forms. Bullies suck. Bullies who brag about sticking together to bully suck even more.

My dog gets mopey when I do. We’re a pair, the two of us right now.

It’s not all bad, though.

Emma wrote me an email that says “Don’t read until July 25th” in the subject line. She’s such a cutie.

I found paperwork I was looking for (for something I’ll get into at a later date), and it looks dead easy to fill out. Now, it’s a matter of finding a functioning printer to print it all out.

I got my Weight Watchers books in to day, and it looks pretty simple to keep track of.

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Home Again, Home Again, Jiggity Jig

July 21, 2006 at 10:58 am (Travel, Weight Loss Updates)

I’m back at home now, in Tiverton. I got in last night, around 8pm after a delay of about four hours. I got to sleep right away, after my puppy Paige gave me a bath with her kisses.

I’ve decided on a few things since I was with Emma. One of them is that I’m going on a diet. A real one. I’ve never been all too fussed about my weight. I’ve always been fine with my apprearance. But, over vacation, I developed two serious stretch marks on my stomach. I no longer fit into any of Emma’s clothes, which we used to be able to share.

I went on eBay and got a Weight Watcher’s kit. I looked into joining Weight Watchers itself, but I’ve never been one to go to meetings and all that. I’d rather go it alone. We’ll see how it goes. According to the charts there, I should weigh 135lbs, which is about 50lbs less than I am. I did weight that much once, about 10 years ago. We’ll see how long it takes me to lose all that weight.

Just another thing to blog about, I suppose.

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